It's high time that we re-define excellence and perfection and reorient ourselves around what real success looks like.
Achieving a high level of competence in any one area is something to strive for and hopefully achieve, to be sure. Establishing a goal and going after it with determination and persistence is a worthwhile endeavor...but not at the expense of growth.
In my experience, veering off course AND BEING ABLE TO NAVIGATE IT has been a far more valuable teacher than staying on it (as long as it doesn't literally put your wellbeing in danger).
In fact, in the moments where I am "off course", when I have been able to be in that space and remain observant and curious, I have gained incredible insight into how exactly to move forward with intention and a bit more insider info than I had while I was on that original path.
When things happen in our lives, when we have recurring thoughts, when distractions come during meditation, when life offers us...
The other day I found myself doing five things at once. I was doing a lot, but also doing nothing, if that makes sense.
I got to thinking - the world puts so much "value" on productivity that it's no wonder that people tend to move a mile a minute. It seems exhausting to be honest. I know for me, in that moment where I was doing so much, I was really tired. I probably wasn't doing any one of those things as best I could. One of the things I was doing was talking on the phone with someone. Thinking back on it now, what a shame it was that I wasn't even giving this person I was talking to my full attention. That's not how I want to show up in relationships. Distracted. Reactive.
After that realization I decided to pause. To not only pause what I was physically doing but also pause what my mind was doing. I took a few moments to be quiet and ground myself and move forward to do just one thing at a time,...
One of the fundamental truths of life that I have uncovered so far is that each and every one of us is here in order to search for and discover what we are uniquely here to bring forward into the world. Then, once we find it, our job is to go about the business of living that out. Each of us has something incredible and singular to offer, and it's our responsibility to be of service to one another as we move through this life.
Over the years, the invitation to give back has shown up in many ways in my life. I have given of my time, resources, and connections. I've donated shoes and skills and snickerdoodles (vegan of course). I've produced benefit concerts, fundraisers and even went so far as to create an entire company around the idea of giving back and sharing what I have learned, so far.
Here's what I know: each one of us can do something, every day, just by being ourselves.
And here's what else I've found: that in so...
Those of you who know me have been fully aware for quite some time now that I LOVE National Geographic. I'm a super fan. I read them all cover to cover; I get all the emails; I follow them on social. I am such a huge supporter, in fact, that a few years ago I actually WON one of their very cool vacations! It's the only time I've won anything in my life and I'm SO grateful that the Universe decided to wait to gift me that one. I still smile thinking about all the incredible memories made on that trip.
I just love to explore. Whether it's on a grand NatGeo trip, or a walk around my block, I am a sponge with life - wanting to do it all; see it all. There is such huge value found in this kind of exploration - seeking out all of this fabulous knowledge in order to better understand the world around you and how you fit in, or can contribute.
More recently, on one of my long nature walks, it dawned on me that the great invitation of all...
This past year and a half (2020-present) has taught me SO many important lessons. Chief among them is how precious life truly is; how delicate it is and how miraculous our bodies are. Incredible!
Just a few weeks ago, I was fortunate to be able to be fully vaccinated for COVID-19 - the infection that claimed countless lives and impacted us all.
I've been personally interested in health and wellbeing for a bit over a decade now, having begun my own path of a plant-based life in 2010. This year though, I kicked it up into high gear and really evaluated how I was setting my body and mind up for success.
Think about it. Our bodies and minds do so much for us every moment of every day. For example, our precious heart muscle is there nestled in our bodies, relentlessly pumping away. It asks very little of us when you think about it. How can I not do everything in my power to help it along? There are thousands of examples of...
If we all were able to be inquisitive first; conclusive second, the world would be a much different place. If we could catch ourselves before we presume, we could better navigate communication.
The idea of exploration can be applied countless ways in our daily lives, but today I'd like to offer a few thoughts on how we can apply it to our relationships with others, and with ourselves.
Especially in a world culture that places a great deal of "value" on the external and appearance, it's no wonder that people go about their lives judging books by their covers.
But what if we practiced another way of interacting? What if, we could catch ourselves making judgements and instead, be inquisitive without judgement. Further, could we apply additional curiosity to that moment and even ask ourselves how we might add value and be of service, instead of flatly detracting?
I offer that if we could approach our interactions with others from a mindset that is...
I wasn't always "into" wellness. For the majority of my life so far I actually didn't even really know what "wellness" was. As it happens, I was forced into considering wellness.
I say I was forced, because at the time I wasn't readily willing to explore a wellness mindset or the corresponding behaviors. I actively looked everywhere else for it actually - searched for every other possible option before I considered altering my mindset and behavior. It was going to be unknown and uncomfortable, so at the time I only wanted to go down that road if it was an absolute last resort. And so it was.
For me, this all started with a necessary curiosity around how I could help my body become healthier. I started eating more plants and considered where my energy was coming from. I decided to start shifting its source. Not long after this change, I noticed that I started to physically feel lighter and freer - more full of love. Not too...
Self care - taking care of yourself - is often the last thing that care-giving, busy, ambitious, overworked, stressed people will take the time to do. Today though, I needed to just encourage myself to put myself back at the top of my own list...and so, too, will I encourage you to do the same.
Here's what I'm thinking:
Realistic, helpful caring of ones self is as individual as each of us are. What works for me may not work for you. And that's A-OK. All that really matters is that you take the time to figure it out for yourself, and then implement the plan that'll bake it into your life. It's the difference between a topping on an ice cream sundae, and getting the topping already mixed IN the sundae. If you don't make sure you get oreo ice cream in the first place, you could run the risk of an oreo falling off the top. Too risky. Mix it in.
If it's at all helpful though to you, I'll share what I've discovered is a...
Along any path or journey, there are bound to be twists, turns and detours. Expect them.
What really matters is not so much that they occur, but more than that, how you receive and respond to them.
When something unexpected comes across your path, take a moment to notice it and name it. Take the time to really see clearly what it is that's in front of you. If the thing in front of you elicits an emotional response of some kind - feel that. Take the time to really feel your feelings and allow them to happen, for however long you need to.
While you are going through this, lean hard on your self-care habits and the people in your life who lift you up. Then, grant yourself grace and time to deal with whatever it is that's presenting itself.
When you are ready, and only when you are ready, evaluate your perspective around the thing. Be aware of what your perspective currently is, and if it isn't a positive one, do what you can do reframe...
If there's one thing that I think opens up every other door, it's this one shift in perspective.
You've heard it said a million different ways, but no matter how you say it, the message is the old "glass is half full" outlook. I call it, coming from a place of love. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what you call it, as long as you are able to apply it to your life.
What I know is that when you are able to figure out for yourself what it looks and feels like to achieve a default perspective that is love-based, it is a shift that is powerful enough to change everything in your life. When you change your starting place, you change the path and inevitably, the outcome. It all starts with a simple, yet profound choice at some point.
This choice of perception could start at the beginning of something - OR - you may get halfway down the line and realize that you need a change. Well - shift then! The beauty is that there is no "right...